Real grief is not healed by time. If time does anything, it deepens our grief. The longer we live, the more fully we become aware of who they were to us, and the more intimately we experience what their love meant to us. Real, deep love is, as you know, very unobtrusive, seemingly easy and obvious, and so present that we take it for granted. Therefore, it is only in retrospect—or better, in memory— that we fully realize its power and depth. Yes, indeed, love often makes itself visible in pain.