PLEASE - don't ask us if we are over it yet. We'll never be "over it." PLEASE - don't tell us he in a better place. He isn't here. PLEASE - Don't say "at least he isn't suffering". We haven't come to terms with why he had to suffer at all." PLEASE - Don't tell us to get on with our life. We are still here, you'll notice he is not. PLEASE - don't ask us if we feel better. Bereavement isn't a condition that "clears up." PLEASE - don't tell us that "God never makes a mistake" or it was "God's will." You mean he did this on purpose? PLEASE - Don't tell us at least you had him for 67 yrs. What year would you choose for your Father’s life to end? PLEASE - don't tell us God never gives you more than you can bear. Who decides how much another person can bear? PLEASE - just say you are sorry. PLEASE - Just say you remember him. PLEASE - Just let us talk if we want to. PLEASE - Just let us say his name without turning away or changing the subject. PLEASE - let us cry when I must.